10 Awkward Questions a Married Female Solo Traveler Needs to Answer – Part 2
August 6, 2018
99% of the time, people don’t really understand why I travel alone when I am happily married. In their curiosity, they ask such personal questions which sometimes become extremely awkward to answer. So, in this two-part blog post, I am sharing 10 most asked questions which I end up answering as a married female solo traveler.
Question 6: How can you spend your husband’s hard-earned money in your solo travels?
More often this question comes in the form of a comment or remark. Mostly people assume two things – one, husband is the only person earning in the family, and two, wife spends husband’s money. Both of these assumptions are false.
In today’s world, when both husband and wife are well qualified and working, how difficult it is to understand that when you work, you earn; when you earn, you can save; and, when you save, you can spend it in whatever way you like! And I chose to spend my money on travel.
When I travel as a married female solo traveler, I am the only one who is traveling, and not my husband; so obviously, I will be spending my own hard-earned money, and not my husband’s.
Another reason is that, although I am married, I am still an independent woman. So, I would rather choose to chase my dreams on my own, based on my own capability, and not on the basis of anyone else’s hard work.
Question 7: Is there any problem in your married life?
This is another funny assumption which most of the people make when they see a married woman traveling alone. Probably because people think, no sane person under normal circumstances would do something like this. For them, traveling just for the love of it, is unheard of, especially after marriage.
So, they assume that if you are married and still traveling alone for a long duration, there is some problem in your marriage and that is why you are running away from your partner.
Well, nothing like that. By God’s grace, I have no problem in my married life, and I am not running away from anyone. I travel just for the love of it.
In fact, all this solo travel has actually strengthened my love and bond not only with my husband but also with all my near and dear ones. As I already said “distance makes the heart grow fonder.”
Question 8: As a married female solo traveler, don’t you miss your husband while traveling?
Of course, I do. That is the biggest challenge I face as a married female solo traveler while I travel alone. I miss him a lot, especially when I travel to places which I absolutely fall in love with. Whenever I see a beautiful sunset, whenever I have a great meal, whenever I visit a great location, I always think of my husband and miss him more.
But, then I remember, if I don’t travel now, I will regret that my entire life; and at that time, my husband would probably have to deal with “unhappy” or “frustrated” me, which obviously won’t do any good to both of us.
Also, I know that my husband actually enjoys his bachelorhood while I am away, so I try to do the same!! Because, in the end, both of us know that we will be together again.
Question 9: How is your husband managing?
Just like I manage – on my own. My husband is a responsible adult, who doesn’t fuss about small things. He moved out from the comfort of his home after finishing his school and shifted to Pune to finish his graduation. Staying away from home continued when he got a job in Delhi. All this made him learn how to manage things on his own.
Fortunately, we can afford a little house-help in India. So, he really doesn’t have to worry about the daily household chores.
And, I have been really lucky – one, with respect to my understanding husband, and second, with respect to my house-help (she is sincere, honest and a great cook!!).
Question 10: Are you not scared of traveling alone?
Just sometimes, not always. Of course, I was extremely scared initially when I took the plunge of quitting my job; and then I was scared when I was scheduled to leave for my first ever solo backpacking trip.
But, with time, I have come to realize that it is only when you face your fears, that you can experience the shear bliss of overcoming them. As they say, “everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
So, if you are a married female and planning to go on a solo trip, then be prepared to answer these questions to complete strangers; and satisfactorily answering them will give you the high of clearing a tough interview with flying colors :P.
The funny part (ironic too) is a married male solo traveler doesn’t have to face these questions!
What are the most personal/awkward questions you have faced while traveling as a female solo traveler? How did you handle them? Are you also guilty of asking such questions ? Let me know in comments.